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No one else writes about the highs and lows of this diplomatic life from both the perspective of the posted diplomat AND the accompanying significant other like the lonely diplomat.

Read one, two - or binge them all - of the articles to be supported, challenged and inspired through Phil's lived experience, wisdom and insight.

They're all here for you as you live your diplomatic life and want to reconnect with yourself and the world around you.

You're not alone.

Feb 15, 20207 min read

Mindfulness and you

Let's explore how mindfulness can help the stressed and busy diplomat with these words from my friend, Jase Te Patu.

Jan 25, 20209 min read

On anxiety and being a diplomat

Let's have a kind and honest conversation about mental illness and mental health and well-being in diplomacy that moves beyond platitudes.

Jan 11, 20208 min read

Setting up a portable business as a diplomatic spouse

Amel Derragui shares her reasons why setting up a globally portable business can help diplomatic spouses.

Phil McAuliffe

Nov 30, 20199 min read

The Lonely Diplomat: on competition

Our diplomatic lives can be dominated by competition. What can this do to us?

On being gay and living a diplomatic life

Phil McAuliffe

Nov 2, 201911 min read

On being gay and living a diplomatic life

Let's explore what can it mean to be a same-sex couple who is living their diplomatic life.

Loneliness and the absence of real connection

Phil McAuliffe

Oct 5, 20198 min read

Loneliness and the absence of real connection

Loneliness often gets confused with being alone, but they're very different. Read Vaughan Carder's reflections on loneliness he shar

Phil McAuliffe

Sep 7, 20198 min read

'What will people think?' must end

'What will people think?' silences innovation. Here's how to challenge it and work through fear.

Phil McAuliffe

Aug 10, 201912 min read

Find balance to avoid burnout

You must find a balance that works for you if you are to avoid burning out

Phil McAuliffe

Jul 20, 20196 min read

Your life under a microscope

What you know is valuable. People want to know what you know. What you say, do and think is interesting. This is not a normal way to live.

Angela Pickett

Jul 6, 20198 min read

On leaving diplomacy

There's nothing like a career in diplomacy. It's tough to leave. What if it's time to do something else?

Phil McAuliffe

Jun 23, 20199 min read

Friendship and diplomacy

Making friends and maintaining friendships can be tough when living the diplomatic life.

Simon

Jun 9, 201911 min read

On being a male diplomatic spouse

'My reference point for others was suddenly not to me, it was to my female spouse.'

Phil McAuliffe

May 26, 20198 min read

Thrive through your mid-life crisis

Resist the sportscar, the affair or dramatic career change. Welcome your mid-life crisis and thrive.

A clarion call to the leaders of diplomacy

Phil McAuliffe

May 12, 20197 min read

A clarion call to the leaders of diplomacy

I've a clear message for the leaders of diplomacy: your diplomats are struggling.

'Finally, I can eat garlic!'
Life as a diplomat's daughter

Jaqueline Benndorf

Apr 28, 20199 min read

'Finally, I can eat garlic!' Life as a diplomat's daughter

How can growing up as the child of a diplomat affect how our children view themselves and their world?

Phil McAuliffe

Apr 14, 201911 min read

'Big' vs. 'Little' resilience

How the diplomatic life tests your big and little resilience each day and how you can respond

Phil McAuliffe

Mar 31, 201910 min read

Finding time for fitness

Finding time for your fitness is an act of self-care. The trick is in having the time, right?

Phil McAuliffe

Mar 17, 201910 min read

Finding your home

Where, or what, or even who is home for you?

Phil McAuliffe

Mar 3, 20199 min read

The stories we tell ourselves

We are all fantastic story creators. The stories we tell ourselves can become our truths. They're often wrong.

Georgie Ryan

Feb 17, 201912 min read

Diplomatic spouses of the world, unite!

"Call me a trailing spouse and I will politely put you in a headlock and rearrange your pretty diplomat face"

Phil McAuliffe

Feb 3, 201910 min read

Always being 'on'

It's a fact that we're never 'off' when on a diplomatic posting. This is very damaging to your health and well-being

Phil McAuliffe

Jan 20, 201914 min read

On loneliness

Hi, my name's Phil and I'm the Lonely Diplomat. This is my story of my descent into loneliness and my way back.

Phil McAuliffe

Jan 6, 20199 min read

Say what you mean. Mean what you say.

Stop being diplomatic. Sometimes you actually need to say what you mean and mean what you say.

Phil McAuliffe

Dec 16, 20189 min read

The Lonely Diplomat: on Christmas

It is the season of goodwill to all and a time to be with family and friends. What is it about the festive season that can have us feeling h

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