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No one else writes about the highs and lows of this diplomatic life from both the perspective of the posted diplomat AND the accompanying significant other like the lonely diplomat.

Read one, two - or binge them all - of the articles to be supported, challenged and inspired through Phil's lived experience, wisdom and insight.

They're all here for you as you live your diplomatic life and want to reconnect with yourself and the world around you.

You're not alone.

Phil McAuliffe

Apr 1, 20235 min read

Your life audit

Are you feeding connection and starving loneliness? Let's check.

Phil McAuliffe

Mar 4, 20236 min read

On managing overwhelm

Let's explore why you and I feel so frequently overwhelmed. Our lives may depend on it.

Tanya Crossman

Feb 4, 20238 min read

How diplo life can affect our kids

For all the wonders and joys, this diplomatic life can really harm our kids. Let's talk about that.

Phil McAuliffe

Dec 3, 20228 min read

Connection and the modern diplomat

Connection is a big deal You need connection to survive Why aren’t you prioritising it?

Phil McAuliffe

Nov 5, 20228 min read

Why hit rock bottom?

Hitting rock bottom is messy. Why do you wait to hit it to make change?

Phil McAuliffe

Aug 14, 20216 min read

Checking our privilege

Words can mean different things in different contexts. Privilege is one of those words.

Phil McAuliffe

Aug 7, 202110 min read

On belonging

We humans - even diplomats - can hustle to feel like we belong and to feel worthy. Let's talk about that.

Phil McAuliffe

Jul 31, 202110 min read

My resilience reset

A whole lot of life has happened for us in 2020 and 2021. We need to process it in our way.

Phil McAuliffe

Jul 24, 20214 min read

Diplomats and Olympians

What do diplomats and Olympic athletes have in common? Let’s find out.

Phil McAuliffe

Jul 17, 20215 min read

On returning home

It's good to be home, right? Right??

Phil McAuliffe

Nov 14, 20204 min read

Being awed

Hey, office-dweller, how often are you left awestruck by nature?

Phil McAuliffe

Oct 31, 20205 min read

Change, diplomacy and you

You are the key to the change you want to see in diplomacy.

Phil McAuliffe

Oct 17, 20206 min read

Becoming a happy diplomat

Here’s how to be a happy diplomat.

Phil McAuliffe

Oct 3, 20209 min read

7 tips for first postees

If you're getting ready to go on your first posting, I crowdsourced some wisdom for you.

Why you're not getting the connection you need

Phil McAuliffe

Sep 17, 20206 min read

Why you're not getting the connection you need

What frequently passes for connection in this diplomatic life is weird and is not enough to feel connected.

Phil McAuliffe

Aug 22, 20205 min read

The Lonely Diplomat: on our soulgasms

Who, or what, in your life sparks joy? Who, or what, in your life gives you a soulgasm?

Phil McAuliffe

Aug 1, 20207 min read

The Lonely Diplomat: on our soulaches

I have an important question to ask you. Please, only read this if you’re prepared to be honest with your self.

The Lonely Diplomat: Who gets lonelier: diplomat or spouse?

Phil McAuliffe

Jul 11, 20207 min read

The Lonely Diplomat: Who gets lonelier: diplomat or spouse?

Who gets lonelier: the diplomat or the accompanying spouse? Let’s have a look at both cases.

The Lonely Diplomat: lessons from my social media detox

Phil McAuliffe

Jun 20, 202011 min read

The Lonely Diplomat: lessons from my social media detox

It was time to take my own advice and use social media for good. Is it time for you to do the same?

The Lonely Diplomat: a letter to myself about change

Phil McAuliffe

May 30, 20207 min read

The Lonely Diplomat: a letter to myself about change

Change is scary for me too. I can doubt my own bravery.

Phil McAuliffe

May 9, 202011 min read

The Lonely Diplomat: on breaking up

This diplomatic life is tough on relationships. It's a fact that some don't survive.

The Lonely Diplomat: on bullying, harassment and discrimination in diplomacy

Phil McAuliffe

Apr 18, 202011 min read

The Lonely Diplomat: on bullying, harassment and discrimination in diplomacy

Is bullying, harassment and discrimination rife in diplomacy?

The Lonely Diplomat: supporting you through COVID-19

Phil McAuliffe

Mar 28, 202010 min read

The Lonely Diplomat: supporting you through COVID-19

Advice to help those living their diplomatic life through these crazy times.

Phil McAuliffe

Mar 7, 20206 min read

The Lonely Diplomat: on minimalism

This diplomatic life is complicated enough without being worn down by things, beliefs and people that do not serve us. Let's declutter.

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